Friday, October 25, 2013

抉择

每一次回家路途中车窗外的风景感觉特别漂亮,天空特别蔚蓝,
就连天空的小鸟都仿佛在对我笑,
心情特别好,特别兴奋。

这一次回家,心理却没有这份期待,
太多的思绪淹没了整个脑海,沉重的心让我无法欣赏窗外的美景。

分析了一整天,想了一整夜, 好不容易才作出抉择。

半年,不长不短,却是我人生中最难熬的时期。
我没有后悔当初做这个决定,
我体验了大城市的生活,学会怎么搭公车和轻轨;
我学会了独立,独立照顾自己,独立面对每一个问题;
我上了好多堂生命课,学会忍耐,容忍,自控;
我在大学里学到很多东西,尤其是我最感兴趣的社会学;
我也认识了一班疯狂,有时候幼稚,有时候带给我喜和悲的朋友;
更重要的是,我学会怎样完全的依靠神,没有家人在身旁的时候,唯有祂是我的避风港。

这条路好难走,我走得好累,但最累的是她。
她为了我,不惜一切地帮我。
因为放不下心,所以每个月都会飞过来一次看我,
为了我,拿了好多天假期,买了好多东西,给我吃最好的,穿最好的,住最好的,
每天都在担心我,担心我的饮食,我的安全,我的情绪,
单单脚指甲的问题就足以让她变成热锅上的蚂蚁,
你叫我怎么舍得在让她这么焦虑下去。

半年了,依然陌生。
我对这个陌生地方没有任何的留恋,
不喜欢这里的环境,尤其是严重的交通阻塞;
不喜欢这间大学,和我想象的几乎不一样;
不喜欢这里的生活,好仓促,好危险,常常要提心吊胆;
不喜欢这里的一些人,好刻薄,不友善,无情,斤斤计较。

因此,我决定离开。
既然选择离开,就要懂得放下。
我唯一放不下的,就是学业,
很遗憾无法完成,辜负了大家对我的一番苦心,
因为实在是太累了,大家都很累。

人一生有太多的抉择要作,
唯有祷告让神引领我走下一条道路,
让我可以好好的走向属于我的未来。

Sunday, October 13, 2013

Everyday......

Everyday is a difficult day,
There's nothing I like about this place,
the traffic, the surrounding, the people, everything including the air that I breathe.

Everyday is just a day,
No excitement, no anticipation for the things to come,
but only longing to get back to where I belong.

Everyday is a struggling day,
I gotta step out my comfort zone, dealing with people who aren't on the same frequency with me,
faking a smile, telling a lie, saying "I'm fine."

Everyday is an unsatisfactory day,
eating food which has no soul, no warmth, no taste, no love,
there's no other choice but to forcefully swallow.

Everyday is a teary day,
hugging my bear, hoping that this is just a dream,
when I wake up, everything gonna be how it used to be.

Everyday is a tiring lonely day,
no one to eat with, no one to walk with, no one to laugh with,
just waiting for a familiar voice to call every night.

Everyday is a really though day,
This is beyond what I could manage, feel like want to give up everything,
I'm exhausted, I'm scared, I'm confused.

I just want to go home.

Wednesday, October 9, 2013

Why do congregation fall asleep during your sermon?

This question might be useful for all the speakers out there.

The answer is simple, because your audience do not understand your sermon.

Since I attended mother church here, I couldn't comprehend the speaker's message and my attention automatically shift to my phone or the surrounding.
In Effective Communication Skills and English for Communication lecture, we were taught how to be a good speaker and not bore them at the same time.

Congregation come not to hear how well you deliver a speech, they are interested in the content of your speech. Preachers have to know that there are many young christians out there, some of them are even 1st-timer to church. You can't expect these people to know the bible thoroughly.

So here are some personal suggestions from a young christian:

1. Avoid using jargons, which are words that only the old christian knew about. For example Martyrdom (the event of people who died for their beliefs). If you HAVE to use it, then please EXPLAIN it. Or else, you'll keep your audience wondering and guessing for the whole sermon.

2. Use simple English. Preachers have to be aware of the type of audience. Some of them do not know many English vocab and this will result in insulting their intelligence. For example, why use "fathom" instead of "understand"? Trust me, I've seen many english educated preacher did this.

3. Limit your speach. We know that you have a lot to share with us, but please be easy with that, congregation's attention won't last more than 1 hour. Narrow down your scope if it's too broad, there's still a lot more Sundays to come.

4. Make it relevant. This is the part where I dislike the most. They tell you a bible story, which is a historical event, (some may even think that it's merely a story/legend), then they end the sermon without relating or very little related to our daily lives. That's the main point of your entire sermon.

5. Add a bit of humor or personal experiences. I tell you, it brings a lot of different effect when you add this 2 elements.

7 Cs of Effective Communication
Clear
Complete
Courteous
Concise
Considerate
Concrete
Correct

A successful speaker is able to Inform, Persuade, Motivate and Entertain.

I hope, my tips are useful for all the preachers or preachers-to-be out there. God bless you!

Tuesday, October 8, 2013

日久见人心

人心,日久了,冉冉露出真实的一面,而那一面,都是那几个性质:贪婪,自私,背叛,嫉妒,不负责任,忘恩负义等等。

发现人真实面目的经历,我多的是。
生命里会遇上这种人是避免不了的,只看我们懂不懂得去应付。

面对这种人,你只能有三个选择:
一,离开;
二,保持沉默继续和他在一起,;
三,坦白。

很多次想要选择第三,但因为感情太深,有些话,想了一整夜,却始终说不出口。
这一点,我承认,我也很难办到。
正所谓:做人难,做好人更难。

有些时候,情况不由得我们控制,因此我们只好交托给上帝安排一切。

我最讨厌利用我的人,这些人达到他们目的以后就拍拍屁股离开。
我会极度地鄙视这些人,所以,请你不要这样对我,
虽然最后我还是会选择原谅你,因为基督叫我们要爱我们的敌人。

了解他们的”真“心了未免是件坏事,至少让我们以后懂得堤防。
就当作是一种考验,一个磨练耐心的机会。

人的本性是自私的,但我们可以尝试改变,
藉由我们的肉体或许办不到,但我们可以依靠上帝来塑造我们。

粗话

粗话,脏话,粗口,随你怎么称呼它,英文叫 Swearing Habits,是指粗俗不文的话,令人听了难受,甚至伤自尊的话。

我最近认识的朋友圈子里,一半以上有这个习惯,而我,恰恰和他们相反,不骂粗口,也超不喜欢听别人骂。更令人难过的是,有些基督徒也有这样的嗜好。

很多次想要开口跟他们讲清楚,可是却怕说伤感情,了连朋友都做不成。
毕竟忠言逆耳,有哪个人喜欢被指责,听劝告的?



任何坏话都不可出口,而是按着需要说造就人的好话,使听的人得到益处。
(以弗所书 4:29)

请问这些说脏话的人,你们会在长辈面前,老板面前,小孩面前,讲师面前这么做吗?
若你的答案是“不”的话,那为什么却在朋友面前会骂?
是为了显得你跟上潮流? 认为这样很酷?认为这样才能被朋友接受?

好,让我现在告诉你,一点都不酷,骂粗话只会让我对你的印象大大的减分,我要是你的雇主的话,肯定把你炒掉!

曾经有个人跟我说:说粗口只会降低你自己的价值。我听了非常赞同!
坦白说,我也不喜欢人家大声叫一些不雅的话,比如说,叫人家傻逼,傻婆,王八蛋,去你妹,顶你的肺,巴掌打死你等等。其实,为什么一定要对朋友说这些难听的话呢?

身为基督徒,更不应该有这样的坏习惯。

人类就是很奇怪的,有好的东西不学,偏偏喜欢学坏的文化。
若世间上的人都会把那些骂粗口的精力和时间去安抚那些失落的人,需要关怀的人,或忧郁的人,我相信,忧郁症病患者一定可以更早被发现,被医治,这世界一定会变得更美好。

其实很多人并不知道他们自己患上忧郁症。
一项调查显示,常被”谷格“的三大病患,第一:忧郁症;第二:过敏;第三:癌症。

记得:不是每一个潮流都要跟上,好的就应该学;不好的,我们要懂得去分析,然后避免自己不知不觉中陷入这种不良文化。

所以,请你改掉这个坏习惯好吗?

Saturday, October 5, 2013

Root of the Cause

Finally, the root of the cause of my toe pain is removed!!!!

A few months a ago, both my intruding toe nails got operated, and new nails are growing,
and it grew into my flesh!!! This is the exact opposite of what the doctor had said before operation.

So, I took antibiotics, finished it, go see doctor(a few times), continue to take, apply antiseptic cream, stop eating my favorite prawns and nuts and pray everyday. The swollen part gradually subsided, then I went to the healing prayer, the pain is gone. Then I thought I can just leave it and no need to go for operation. (I don't want any surgery anymore)


My thought was obviously proved wrong when both toe continue to swell (sometimes bleed) and it became purple colour, so you can imagine how bad it is.  

Yesterday, I told myself, this isn't working, I gotta go fix it.
 I went to the nearest manicure saloon at Jaya One, it's called House of Nail, to get my nail fixed.

I sat on a comfortable massage chair and immersed both feet in a hot water. 
The lady brought her tools which terrified me, there was various-never-seen-before type of nail cutter and scissors, she sat down, wore a pair of surgery gloves and used a tiny spatula to examine my poor toes.


And here comes my biggest fear.........pain!
With heart pumping like a speed of a race car, I watched her meticulously fixed my nail, blood was oozing out all over, she cleaned it and continue. She was struggling to reach the intruding nail that got into the flesh, another assistant was called to help her. She literally performed a surgery on my toe, without any anesthesia!!! 

She asked me if it's painful, I was sweating intensely, adrenaline kept flowing throughout my body, with teeth gnashing and fist clenched so tightly, I couldn't utter a single word, her assistant helped me to express my suppressed pain. In my mind, I just kept praying and and praying that the Lord will grant her all the wisdom, skills and make everything easy for her. 


The lady noticed that I was in deep excruciating pain and kept consoling me to tolerate with it. I think the lady was also very nervous.Only God knows how I endured that extremely terrible pain......


And finally, the bit of nail that had gotten so deeply inside my flesh was finally cut and plucked out,
thanks to the lady's strenuous effort.
At that particular juncture, my entire body relaxed, my sense of relieve was beyond description. 
and I just thank God repeatedly for the successful "operation".

This bit of nail might be very small, but it had been bothering me for a month. 
I've learnt a lesson: You've gotta remove the root of the cause to perpetually fix the problem, or else, it will be a pain in the ass, keep prickling you like a thorn inside. 

Same goes to our lives, whenever we face any problems, we gotta find the cause, and solve it immediately!



Wednesday, October 2, 2013

Narcissism

A friend told me this recently, when she joined a 7k run, a crowd full of huge/small smartphones holder are taking tons and tons of pictures before, after, during the race. This scenery is not seen 2 years ago when she joined the same event.

Self-taking photos had became a trend ever since the revolution of smartphones, especially with the availability of front camera and various photo-editing apps. Thanks to this technology advancement, self-taking photo somehow became a daily life routine to some people.


Not to say that this is bad, it brings no harm actually, but I find it a bit too much for those who take pictures of themselves sooooo frequently and I just have to write this post to express how I felt about it.
After wake up.....snap
Before sleep....... snap
Had maggie for lunch....snap
Go to gym......snap
Go to school.....snap
Go to church.....snap
Go everywhere....snap
Do whatever.....snap

This over "Selfie" thing is called Narcissism.

Narcissism is a term that originated with Narcissus in Greek mythology who fell in love with his own image reflected in a pool of water. In modern days, it is used to describe people who are 自恋。



You can see some of the profile photos have 2 or sometimes 4 combined pictures of themselves with different (sometimes same) facial expression and poses. No offence, but to be frank, some of their weird facial expressions are quite hideous at times. Some filtered (just learnt this new word, it means adding effect to the photos), some not, some with irrelevant quotes(even Christian quotes but contradicts with the pic), some came with dozens of hashtags like #lotd (Look of the day)or # ootd (Outfit of the day), (some hashtags don't even exist!) and some with cleavage! 



I'm not the type who like to take selfie pictures, I prefer photos taken by someone. It looks more natural to me. Furthermore, pictures have more variations, what I meant here is pic taken from different angle, setting and context. 

There's nothing wrong with taking self pictures, it can actually boost your confident. However, moderation is always good. Too many of your Selfie photos in fact will bore and sometimes annoy your audience, it made me feel like you're in seeking attention in a very desperate way.