Monday, January 30, 2012

All we need is time.

Look, the thing I posted few days ago were never meant to hurt anybody.
My intention was to give some advice.
In fact, advises are never easy to receive.
I didn't expect you to receive it now, I'm sorry if I offended you.

Do you still remember when we were in form 2 and form 3,
everyday I was scolded by our Chinese teacher and our KH teacher?
If you could recall, everyday (almost) I argue with teacher, I shout at teacher, I talk bad about teacher, I was rude at teacher, and sometimes I point the middle finger at them.

Yes, I admit that I was rebellious, mean, arrogant, boastful, stiff-necked, stubborn and potent.
In the report card, the teacher's comment was "Try to be humble"

Yes, that time, I hate them sooooo much, especially the chinese teacher.
Everyday, I would curse them with foul words whenever I had the chance.

But now, when I look back at my old self, I am grateful that God made them appeared in my life.
If it wasn't them, I might be the same old me.

Sometimes, God allows harsh difficult moments for us is to let us grow, and be mature.
I cannot say that 100% did it, but at least I'm still on the process to try and change.

Do you know when bad situations started to change positive?
When I started attending church regularly.

I believe that one day, God will make a change in your life.
Situations will change.
It's just a matter of time.




Facebook = sharing or hurting?

Facebook was created to share our thoughts, photos, current situations etc...
It was suppose to bring joy happiness...

But
Few days ago, I saw an article saying facebook brings sadness to its user.
Well, ironically I agree to that statement.

Why say so?

Sometimes, when we see pictures of our friends attending some event enjoying themselves without you, we feel ignored.

Anyone who experienced this before know how I felt.
That's why sometimes I hesitated to post pictures.

Thursday, January 26, 2012

If I am rejected by colleagues and boss in my workplace, will I quite my job just because of this small matter?

Yes. Why would I want to stay in a group who dislikes my presence?
Why would I want to face them everyday?

BUT, before you ask me this, ask yourself why you want to put yourself in this kind of situation?

People won't reject you for no reason.

Some group of people look down on handicapped, ugly, fat, mentally disabled, or people who comes from bad family background.

Are you one of them?
If yes, then this is their fault for rejecting you.
BUT, if no, then there must be something wrong with your attitude.

I was once rejected by a group of people because of my family background.
I made the right decisions by leaving them.
Now, I'm joining another group of people of accepts who am I.
BUT of course, I need to try to fit in with the right attitude.

This is not avoiding or narrowing down my social life.
You can always find and discover new friends.

Yes, sometimes we may face situations or people using a poker face.
BUT, too much of it brings you no happiness.
Because, you're not being yourself.
You are wearing a mask.
In fact, long term of being in a condition like this can bring you depression or even worst, schizophrenia.

Look, I don't want to argue with you, all I can do now is pray that God will open your eyes to see, open your ears to hear and open your heart to receive.

I didn't mean to offend you, but try clicking this link.

Wednesday, January 25, 2012

To you. Yes, you.

First of all, I want to make a clear statement.
I wasn't the first one to organize this event.
I was invited through a message in fb.

And you know what,
Your name didn't appear in that guest list.

Then, to make things easier and simpler,
I was requested to make an event,
and the guest list of this event was according to the people involved in that message.

Next, I had the same experience as you.
Yes, left out, ignored, and seem like no one care.
I understand that no one likes to be left out, including me.
In fact it hurts.
It hurts the most when they boast about something or post pictures in fb,
and You are not involved.
So, you start to blame them.

But sometimes, you gotta think what are the causes of these?

Sometimes we didn't realize that the actual problem comes within from ourselves.
This is the time you should look in the mirror and reflect.

But there are also times that we are in the wrong group of people.
Life is all about trying and exploring.
You gotta keep trying to find your group and fit in.
I once was in the wrong group of people, being with them brings no happiness to me.
Hence, I left them and join the other group.

Now, whenever I see their pictures, post, conversations in fb.
I felt Nothing because I've learnt to let go.

Look, I don't wanna offend you but this is the fact and please accept it.
So far, what I've known is majority in this group didn't like you presence.
And again, look into yourself, reflect.

But, I see that you like animes, hobby-cons and cos-play.
and you found some friends who share the same interest with you.
So why don't you think it the other way,

Hey, I should hang out with these people.
These are the people who care for me,
who feel comfortable with my presence,
who like what I like.

To be frank, you are quite a handsome guy.
You are not handicapped, or ugly, or having any sickness.
You only have some minor problems with your attitude.
Just remove the bad ones, I believe one day you'll have friends beyond your imagination.

By the way, about the video that you commented,
believe or not, God exist and miracles do appear. It just a matter of time.

You know what, there are reasons why people are attending church service or any other religion classes.
Not only Christians, even Buddhist teaches and implants good values in their believer.
Do you realize that people who have strong faith in their religion tend to have positive minded and mature?
That is because we are taught not to be boastful, not to be hot-tempered, not to be a pessimist, and many other wonderful things.

Here's an advice for you, join some religious activities, make some new friends, broaden you social life, and stop whining about your pathetic life everyday (or should i say every single hour).
It helps both emotionally and psychologically.

Wednesday, January 18, 2012

A simple update.

I found out that i have soft spot in rejecting other people.
I don't know why, but I find it hard to reject their request though i know that their request sometimes can bring trouble to myself or family.
Especially when you are quite close with that friend.
Don't you have the same problem like me?

Anyway, after much consideration, I rejected a friend's request.

A church friend posted this video on fb, click here
I find it very enlightening and informative. Hence i want to share it with u guys.
This is a must watch for those who can write chinese character.
It's about God in ancient China, how our chinese words are related to bible events.

Enjoy the video =)

Tuesday, January 10, 2012

Depression

Life is getting hectic and stressed everyday.
Sometimes we feel like we are in a pressure cooker, pressure comes from everywhere.
When we cannot cope with emotions and the pressure, we'll have a higher risk of getting depression.

Depression is a sickness which the patient is in deep sadness, lives in her/his own world.
Sometimes, one is not aware that he/she might have this sickness already.
In mandarin, we call it 忧郁症。

Here are the common symptoms of depression.

1) Sleep changes. Either insomnia or hypersomnia (oversleep)
2) Weight changes. Extreme lost or gain of body weight.
3) Concentration problems.
4) Fatigue and feeling weak all the time.
5) Lost interest in everything, daily routine.
6) Feeling hopeless, helpless and useless.
7) Low self-esteem
8) Always feel irritated and lost temper easily.
9) Couldn't make decisions.
10) Thinking of suicide or suicidal attempt.

Look around, if your friends and family are having these symptoms, procrastinate no more and bring her/him to a psychiatrist.

Have no fear my friend, depression are proven 100% curable.

Some may wonder what's the difference between a psychiatrist and a psychologist.

A psychiatrist only gives you medication and will monitor you from time to time.
Whereas a psychologist will have a counselling session with the patient, some will give you prescription.

Depending on the medication only is not enough, a depression patient should also go for emotion therapy by the psychologist.

These are a few example of people who recovered from depression.
(Some of them still take medication to control)
- Angelina Jolie
- J.K Rowling (Author of Harry Potter series)
- Rowan Atkinson (Mr. Bean)
- Jackie Chan
- Sammie Cheng 郑秀文

I hope that this information is useful for you guys.
Observe more, Care more, Love More. You can help save a life.

Monday, January 9, 2012

Wedding =)

I'm soooooo in wedding mood recently.

Saw some of my fb acquaintance's wedding video,
teacher's wedding ceremony photos,
friends touching proposal video.

I understand that it takes time for a couple to step into a whole new marriage life.
And marriage life requires commitment and trust.

Hence, I'll wait patiently for my Mr. Right.
I believe God will provide a perfect one for me.

Here are some wedding photographies found through google image.
(These photos do not belong to me.)







Sweet enough? =)

Saturday, January 7, 2012

God is talking to me.

As i was blogwalking, this phrase caught my attention and i was drown in a deep thought.
Oh ya, i found out that my english vocab had regressed since holidays.

God might destroy our dreams and He'll raise those dreams again so that our dreams would be His dreams for us as well.

He had destroyed my dream. I once hated Him so much because of this.

But then i realize that, God has his reasons and purposes of doing this.
And now i'm seeing the outcome of it.

My relationship with family members were better, stronger and healthier.
I learnt to get up again after falling down.
God spoke to me through a church member at 3 am in the morning,

God is like a father holding a toddler who is just learning to walk.
The toddler wouldn't learn if the father never let go of his hands.

When trials and tribulations hit us, God let go of his hand.
He wants us to learn to walk just like the toddler.
The first step is never easy. We'll fall.

But at the end, when we see our footsteps behind,
we will be overwhelmed with satisfaction and proud of ourselves.

Now, I'm waiting for Him to raise another dream for me.
I believe that this new dream will be a better dream for me, family and of course Him.

Old times...

Recently i found my childhood favorite Thailand series.
It is available in youtube but without subtitle. T_T.

I remembered watching this when i was in primary 4 or 5.
That time, we had no astro, tv programme shown was limited,
hence I watched whatever shown on tv
Everyday i came back from school, changed my uniform, then sat in front of the TV,
and waited patiently this Lakorn (Thai series) to be shown.

Yup, Jealousy/ Kom Paya Baht.

Anyone of you remember this?



Pia, the antagonist of the story. I hate her so much. She's literally a devil. 

The full synopsis.

I wanted to watch it again so badly, but no one can translate for me T_T.